This morning I went for coffee/breakfast with two of my dearest friends. All three of us are busy (some of us more than others) but we made the time in our schedules to meet this morning not just because it was important to us, but because after busy week we needed to be fed, both literally (yum, I love you Sugar Bowl), and spiritually. These women feed my soul. Not only do they get me and my quirky weirdness, they appreciate me and they genuinely care abut me, and I for them. There is no competition, nothing is censored, no story embellished to impress, it's real, and raw, and cathartic. Like a Canadian version of sex and the city, minus the Samantha, and designer shoes, we come from such different places in life, but somehow we just fit together like the missing piece in the puzzles that are our lives. This afternoon I spent time on the phone with another friend, and the entire conversation I couldn't help but think how grateful I am for this person. She makes me feel supported and loved.
My relationships with people have not always been this way. I spent the first two decades of my life being shy and feeling as though I was too boring, or not pretty enough, or too strange. I constantly found ways to make myself seem more interesting, or funny, or pretty. Not realizing that most people could see right through me. Most of my relationships were superficial, and with people who, like me, needed constant reassurance that they were good enough. It was exhausting. It wasn't until I met a few of the women that I call sisters today that I understood what friendship is. It loves you no matter what. It accepts all of you, It needs you as much as you need it. It is never jealous, it always lifts you up and makes you feel like you are the best possible version of yourself. It is comfortable, and understanding.
Moment of Mindfulness
1.Take a few moments to ponder your current friendships. Do they feed you?
2.Find a few things about each of those relationships that you are grateful for.
3.Consider in what way can you continue to nurture/grow/mend these relationships.